Self Confidence - nWow! Counselling & Coaching

Listen to people talking about self-confidence and self-esteem and you might easily think that they are ‘things’ that you either have or don’t.

You may not feel very confident as a result of a number of reasons. Often it’s part of a kind of programming. Watching a toddler learn to walk we know that they will definitely have many falls as part of the learning process and you never hear anybody say something like “oh, she’ll never be a good walker”.

Yet as we go through life, trying new things and inevitably having setbacks, some people forget that mistakes are part of learning and expected. So you would have probably heard others’ feedback and criticism and if you don’t feel that great about yourself then it may be because you took their judgments to heart and started believing them.

Particular people like family, teachers, and others we admire or have authority over us are key sources for the beginning of beliefs about ourselves early on in life – positive or negative.

Self-confidence is also about self-acceptance.  In today’s world it’s really easy to start thinking something isn’t ‘right’ about ourselves.  That’s partly because there are so many random people online all with their own opinions about how we ‘should’ be, what the ‘best’ life is, what is important and what isn’t, what’s ‘normal’, what’s successful… and so on.  It can exhausting trying to fit into someone else’s idea of how to be.  Exhausting and confusing.  And ultimately unhelpful.

We work to help people turn that exhaustion and confusion and negative feelings about oneself – the self-confidence, self-esteem and self-acceptance back into a process – something you can learn as a skill and an area in your life where you can be in the driving seat.

You can give boost your self-confidence by changing the way you feel about events in the past, re-examining and challenging beliefs about yourself and changing any unhelpful thought patterns you’ve picked up along the way.

To find out how we can help you feel more confident about yourself:
Email: info@nwow.co.nz
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